" ...people jockeying for position as chief mourner. ... It was always human and never pleasant and moften misleading. AId workers,when handing out food to starving people, quickly larn that the people fighting for it at the front are the people who need it least. It's the people sitting quitely at the back, too weak to fight wo need it most. and so too with tragedy. The people who don't insist on their sorrow can often be the ones who feel it most strongly. But he also knew there was no hard and fast rule. "

― Louise Penny , Still Life (Chief Inspector Armand Gamache, #1)