" At the same time, in speaking to women’s groups, I have suggested that women look at men this way: if they took away their own network of intimate friends, those with whom they share their personal journey, removed their sense of instinctual guidance, concluded that they were almost wholly alone in the world, and understood that they would be defined only by standards of productivity external to them, they would then know the inner state of the average man. "

― James Hollis , Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up