" Of each critical juncture of choice, one may usefully ask, “Does this path
enlarge or diminish me?” Usually, we know the answer to the question. We
know it intuitively, instinctively, in the gut. Choosing the path that enlarges
is always going to mean choosing the path of individuation. The gods want
us to grow up, to step up to that high calling that each soul carries as its
destiny. "
― James Hollis , Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up