" Sociologists tell us that winning an argument is actually a terrible way to change someone's mind. Winning, in other words, isn't really winning, at least not if one's goal is conversion-even just conversation rather than conquest. In fact, it tends to produce the opposite of our desired effect, because when people feel as if their worldview is being threatened, they become protective and defensive, digging in their proverbial heels even more. "
― Rachel Held Evans , Wholehearted Faith