" Your real, new self (which is Christ’s and also yours, and yours just because it is His) will not come as long as you are looking for it. It will come when you are looking for Him.…Give up yourself, and you will find your real self. Lose your life and you will save it.…Keep back nothing. Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours. Nothing in you that has not died will ever be raised from the dead. Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in. "

― Kenneth D. Boa , Conformed to His Image: Biblical and Practical Approaches to Spiritual Formation