" To do that, follow these steps: 1. Say, “Tell me what happened.” Venting allows the person to begin moving from blindly striking out (the most primitive response) to feeling emotional (a higher response). The person’s screaming or yelling will upset you, but it’s far less dangerous than the threat of physical violence—so let it happen. "

― Mark Goulston , Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone