" If you are unkind, insecure, defensive, or cold in relationship because of some belief, that inner climate is bound to sabotage your chance for a healthy relationship. Who you are likely to end up with is someone who is willing to be with someone who is unloving, insecure, defensive, or cold because he needs to be with someone—anyone—rather than because he loves you. This can’t be a satisfying relationship for long, and your belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. "

― Gina Lake , Beliefs, Emotions, and the Creation of Reality: New Teachings from Jesus