" Tell me about a failure in your life and tell me why it occurred.” Does the applicant say he cannot think of one? If he can describe something he perceives as a failure, does he take responsibility for it or does he blame others (e.g., “I never graduated high school because those damned teachers didn’t know how to motivate me”)? "

― Gavin de Becker , The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence