" There is a character that you’re born with, and there are tendencies that are prior to what your parents have socialized you into. There are definitely tendencies among girls to do certain things in certain ways, and there are tendencies in boys to do certain things, prior to socialization. Then socialization can enforce certain things or play down certain things. But you’re not dealing with a totally blank slate. "

― Gary Snyder , Nobody Home: Writing, Buddhism, and Living in Places