" The truth was that when you got married you had to give up one thing
after another. It never ended. You had to give up your life—the special one that
you were meant to have—and lead some middle kind of life that went where
neither of you had ever thought of going, or wanted to go. And you never knew
what was happening. You gave up your life and didn’t even know it. "

― Tobias Wolff , Back in the World