" This is what you have realized: your father will not continue to be alive after he has died. You truly have not known this before. You have viewed death as though you were a five-year-old. You have imagined battling with your father after he was dead, trying to convince him you were worthy. You are no longer concerned with being someone’s daughter. But at least your struggle with your father has allowed you to know what you are to your own child. You are the person who never dies, you are a parent, not quite human, there only to love him. "

― Alice Hoffman , Illumination Night