" His father and his sister had both deliberately attempted to wound him, and he had let them succeed. But those things that had happened, and these feelings he now experienced, were not faults to be conquered. He could not deny the feelings, nor should he try to change them. “Accept and grow,” he (WIntrow) reminded himself, and felt the pain ease.”
p. 107 "

― Robin Hobb , Ship of Magic (Liveship Traders, #1)