QUOTE : A DOZEN PHALLACIES WOMEN BUY<br /><i> Phallacy 4. </i> <br />Men love it when you tell the truth about your relationship.<br /><i> Truth </i> <br />They hate it. Their truth and your truth are, anyway, different. Their truth is about their priorities (conquest, winning, fucking). <i> Our </i> truth is about <i> our </i> priorities (nurturing, creativity, love). Our priorities make <i> life </i> possible. Their priorities make their winning possible. They see our priorities as trivial, but they couldn't live without them. They are in denial about their human dependencies, and our priorities enable them to keep up their denial. How can you talk about this? It's like one person talking Greek and the other Swahili. Cross-babble.<br />Don't talk about the relationship -- <i> do </i> something. Love it or leave it. Make your needs clear. Seize legitimate power. Always speak of how you feel, or what you need, and <i> never </i> accuse. Be gentile but firm. Know what you want and ask for it. If he says no once too often, then consider what your options are. If you are masochistic, get straight with yourself. This world is too cruel for you to compound the felony by being cruel to yourself. Love yourself. Men are mimics. If you love yourself, they love you too.