" had to be cognizant of the fact that I was desperately trying to replace my wife with the first nice woman I met, the first truly pleasant gal who tried to reciprocate and make me happy. This realization led me to conclude that if I moved too fast due to my desperation, that I would very possibly really hurt my new friend when it all inevitably came to an ignoble end. It is easy to lie to yourself, and to her, as you try to force an outcome driven by an emotionally distraught state of mind. "

― Fred Colby , Widower to Widower: Surviving the End of Your Most Important Relationship