" Growing up, women were not the mystery—I knew how they worked, or thought I did. Men were the mystery, obscure in their violences and their lusts and their ability to catch. Yet for many years I didn’t try to conform to “straight-acting” norms. I didn’t think I could—and perhaps achieved an integrity in that surrender. Ironically, "

― Kenji Yoshino , Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights