" In these instances, take a step back and say to yourself, Whoa, what’s going on with me? Why am I so triggered (angry, enraged, freaked out, frozen, numb, shut down, or charged up)? Ah, that’s it; I’m in an amygdala hijack. If you can have this type of self-awareness and learn how to act differently in these situations, you can reveal and eventually liberate yourself from this reactive loop. You will give yourself the option of choosing a new and better behavior. Don’t doubt you can do this; students as early as third grade are identifying hijacks to avert conflict. "

― Judith Wright , The Heart of the Fight: A Couple's Guide to Fifteen Common Fights, What They Really Mean, and How They Can Bring You Closer