" The situation is complicated.” “People say that when they know they have to make a choice between hurting themselves or someone else. Very few things are really complicated. You don’t want to act selfishly, I understand. What you need to know, though, is that the person who would call you selfish doesn’t have to live your life. And life is long, sometimes motherfucking long—excuse my French—and their judgment won’t carry you to the end, only your choices will. "

― Loretta Nyhan , All the Good Parts