" It is only when the child comes to realize that her experiences take place from a first-person perspective that is unique to the child and inaccessible to others, it is only when she realizes that she enjoys unique access to her own experiences, and others to theirs, that her experiences are given to her as subjective, and hence in a first-person mode of givenness. "

― Dan Zahavi , Self and Other: Exploring Subjectivity, Empathy, and Shame