" If kids see traits and character as fixed, they may develop a self-defeating perspective; if they see change as possible and achievable, this is less likely. Often, what actually happens in children’s lives is less important than how those children interpret their experience. These interpretations, made at such a young age that they cannot truly be said to be chosen, can promote resilience or increase vulnerability. They are, like addiction, learned and shaped by the process of development. "

― Maia Szalavitz , Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction