" She should be assertive but not bossy, feminine but not prissy, experienced but not condescending, fashionable but not superficial, forceful but not shrill. Put simply: she should be masculine, but not too masculine; feminine, but not too feminine. She should be everything, which means she should be nothing. That "

― Anne Helen Petersen , Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman