" How many events of my childhood, of my adulthood, would now change shape, stretching into a different truth entirely, the razor-sharp edges of bitterness rounding out into something softer and more forgiving? If there was a word in English to sum up the concept of understanding a difficult family member now you knew their secrets and wishing you’d been a bit kinder, today was a day when it would have come in handy. "

― Kerry Fisher , The Secret Child