" Generally, stress means we aren’t getting enough help. It can be heightened by self-made rules about doing things perfectly and not making any mistakes; by black-and-white thinking; by not accepting help, not getting advice, not trusting; by thinking we have to do everything ourselves; and by other rules we may have made to survive childhood. "

― Anne Katherine , Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries