" Listen. I believe we were put on this earth to love,” she says, “and I believe we love until we can’t love any longer. But the woman I was then, when we first married, when all this started? I so desperately wanted James to break the cycle, to get sober. Had I listened to Dr. Laura back then, I would’ve walked away. And I would’ve saved myself a lot of pain. A lot of heartache. But I believed I could love him out of it. And I believed it was my job to make him better.” “I have spent my whole life incarcerated by that idea.” “Of course you have!” she says. “I have, too! I think most women do! I have spent my whole life shackled to this belief, and it’s a bunch of garbage. "

― Amy E. Butcher , Mothertrucker: Finding Joy on the Loneliest Road in America