" What do-gooders lack is not happiness but innocence. They lack that happy blindness that allows most people most, of the time, to shut their minds to what is unbearable. Do-gooders have forced themselves to know, and keep on knowing, that everything they do effects other people. And that sometimes, though not always, their joy is purchased with other peoples’ joy. And remembering that, they open themselves up to an unlimited crushing sense of responsibility. "

― Larissa MacFarquhar , Strangers Drowning: Grappling with Impossible Idealism, Drastic Choices, and the Overpowering Urge to Help