" Nick Carraway in The Great Gatsby said, “Reserving judgment is a matter of infinite hope,” but the opposite is also true: to judge is to believe that a person is capable of doing better; it’s to know that people can change their behavior, even quite radically, in response to what is expected of them. "

― Larissa MacFarquhar , Strangers Drowning: Grappling with Impossible Idealism, Drastic Choices, and the Overpowering Urge to Help