" If you’re treading quicksand in the swamp of what-might- have-been, you can be sure that’s the message your child gets. You’re a rare person if being constantly reminded of your shortcomings spurs you to improve. For the rest of us, it’s a self-esteem squasher. Time to grab for that overhead vine and realize that only a pencil dot separates “bitter” and “better. "

― Ellen Notbohm , Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew