" You see, shame is the real killer. Of all the emotions that human beings can feel, it is one of the most toxic to health and happiness. Shame researcher Brené Brown defines it as “the fear of being unlovable: Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. "

― Olivia Fox Cabane , The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism