" Fakery is a vital currency in our social intercourse. That’s not necessarily all bad. A lot of the time we pretend as a way of fortifying or easing connections. When we feign recognition, for example, or delight in seeing someone, or gladness to go out of our way, these are acts of goodwill. At best, pretense can be a form of kindness. "

― Leah Hager Cohen , I Don't Know: In Praise of Admitting Ignorance (Except When You Shouldn't)