" Love is not love if it forces you to compromise who you are. Love is a process and a discipline. It is not only what you feel for someone else. Like freedom, it is a path, a practice, which no legal contract can guarantee or enforce. . .

Loving freely means first 'seeing' yourself and then your beloved for who she or he uniquely is, not who you need them to be. You cannot love someone and expect them to compromise some core part of their identity because you need them by your side at every major event in your life. Loving involves letting go - and going on, sometimes alone, to those places to which your soul is drawn. "

― Phyllis Chesler , Letters to a Young Feminist