" Sometimes you can just feel a person's decency in the same way that
sometimes you can intuit a lack of it. Phil had the air of a man who is fully attentively engaged Josh Hannah's first fiance had the air of a man trying not to look at his watch. Phil consistently interested himself in the lives of others Josh talked about himself. Phil looked at my sister with tenderness and humor Josh looked at her
as if she were an especially persistent gnat. "

― Rhoda Janzen , Mennonite in a Little Black Dress: A Memoir of Going Home