" Harmful, consensual sex happens and people should be allowed to speak freely using those terms. Those who have been harmed by sex deserve support regardless of whether they consented. Everyone should acknowledge the other side too, that we can hurt someone even if we did not mean to and even if we checked in and tried to do due diligence. "

― Angela Chen , Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex