" The more powerful a woman is under patriarchy, the more ‘unsexed’
she becomes in the eyes of others as her female cultural identity recedes beneath the mantle of male-identified power and the masculine images associated with it. With men the effect is just the opposite: the more powerful they
are, the more aware they are of their manhood. In other words, in a patriarchal
culture, power looks sexy on men but not on women. "

― Allan G. Johnson , The Gender Knot: Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy