" If this medication helps, that will be great. If it doesn’t, no blame. It wasn’t what my body needed.” “If this doctor turns out to be responsive, that will be nice. If he or she doesn’t, that’s okay. Any given doctor is going to be how he or she is going to be. It’s not in my control. "

― Toni Bernhard , How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers