" I'll never be what you are. I'll never walk in your skin. But that's the doom of all parents. And I can tell you that it goes the same way for everyone. We all stumble. We all fail. You always do the same thing: you apologize and change, again and again and again. There'll never be a place where everything is right, but we can try our best to strive towards it. It's the striving that defines us. That makes us different from them. "

― Aliette de Bodard , In the Vanishers’ Palace