" Identifying a negative outcome doesn’t have the same personal sting if you turn it into a positive by finding things to learn from it. You don’t have to be on the defensive side of every negative outcome because you can recognize, in addition to things you can improve, things you did well and things outside your control. You realize that not knowing is okay. "

― Annie Duke , Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts