" What makes a controlling parent so insidious is that the domination usually comes in the guise of concern. Phrases such as, “this is for your own good,” “I’m only doing this for you,” and, “only because I love you so much,” all mean the same thing: “I’m doing this because I’m so afraid of losing you that I’m willing to make you miserable. "

― Susan Forward , Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life