QUOTE : So many of us have found that it is quite helpful - essential to our well-being, in fact - to craft and actually write down a rule of life. The purpose of this rule is to keep us clear and attentive, to enable us to live contemplatively in the midst of activity. The temptation, of course, is to to be overambitious and to set ourselves impossible goals - and then to fail. I think of this as the "first week of Lent syndrome": what begins a bracing change of pace and priorities turns into a real drag after about two weeks. There is also the danger that the structure will become an end in itself so that our spirituality becomes joyless, life-denying, and self-centered. Particularly in regard to "spiritual disciplines," less is frequently more. A good rule can set us free to be our true and best selves.