" Author Dan Wile accurately points out that all couples have conflicts, miscommunication, and misunderstandings. In fact, he states that when two people get married, they are choosing a set of perpetual problems that will be there for decades- perhaps forever. Many people mistakenly believe that problems in a relationship are a sign that they married the wrong person. This is a naive and immature view of relationships. Wile says that if you had married someone else, you might not have the same problems that you have with your spouse, but you would undoubtedly have some set of problems with that person which seem to have no ostensible solution. They key is to accept that you and your spouse will have some things to work out, and the way you work them out is much more important than the solutions you come up with for the problems (assuming here are solutions to be found at all). "

― , When Two Become Three: Nurturing Your Marriage After Baby Arrives