" Love says, I have her in the palm of my hands and I will massage away any doubts and any fears until she stands confidently, and securely in my love for her. Ego says, “I have her in the palm of my hands and I will manipulate her until she is weak, fearful and totally dependent on me; only then can I be certain of her love for me. Choose love. "

― J. Autherine , Wild Heart, Peaceful Soul: Poems and Inspiration to Live and Love Harmoniously